The loving of one another is qualified: “as I have loved you.” We look to Jesus to see how he loved his disciples. For one thing, he criticized them. The Gospels do not emphasize politeness in the sense of Jesus’ being very careful in everything he said lest he offend. Words, thoughts, and messages were what he presented. We learn from these as well as from what he did NOT do with regard to his disciples. For example, consider how much time he spent in fellowship with them. He had many capabilities and could have gone off and done many other things, but he devoted much time to them. They were always tagging along with him. He fellowshipped with them continuously, trying to make them understand what God’s will was. This verse suggests we should be familiar with Jesus—with his parables, teachings, acts, etc. Sadly, many Christians give little thought to Jesus’ life and ministry, but they spend a great deal of time on other subjects.